Dating a borderline
The bubble has a tough exterior: others have to work very hard to get inside.
But once inside and looking out, one realizes that the bubble is fragile on the inside. Her behavior is erratic, her negativity can be overwhelming at times, and she has too many defense mechanisms to count.
Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and if you are dating someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), you may find yourself in a precarious position when it comes to celebrating the holiday.
In the initial phases, a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder can be exhilarating.
This “splitting,” or dividing, everything into either good or evil will pervade the relationship.
As long as you and your partner are educated about the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, and a BPD treatment plan is in place, there is no reason why you cannot enjoy a romantic Valentine’s Day and a long and happy relationship.But if you understand it from their point of view, it goes a long way in having empathy and working through the troubling times. Most adolescents find out who they are and what they want by the time they reach adulthood.But someone with borderline personality has trouble understanding who she is or what her direction in life is supposed to be.Once the wounds have healed, your significant other with BPD may unleash another accusation against you, or against the world — this one more severe than the last.
Everyone has a limit to how much futile comforting they can expend, and you may find yourself wanting to end the relationship — if your significant other does not first as a means of attack.Therapy for borderline personality disorder can be quite extensive.