Dating a guy with a kid tips
“I know it’s against your nature,” she said,”but when it comes to his kids, be a cat, not a dog.You’re going to want to hug them and bond with them, but it’ll be better if you relax and hang back. I had already fallen in love with their father, so what would I do if they didn’t like me? David and I both grew up in Northridge, both completed graduate and undergraduate degrees at UCLA, had friends in common from college and recently discovered that my cousin was his childhood music teacher.We went to Club 33 at Disneyland and he treated me to couples massages and pool time at the Four Seasons spa. I was starting to wonder what our relationship would look like when it became a story for four, instead of two.We decided to wait six months before my first meeting with his girls: a trip to the arcade at Castle Park in Sherman Oaks. Like a puppy dog, I wanted to cuddle up to them and play, but I remembered her advice not to overwhelm them, so I pretended like this was all no big deal, and tried to find the feline inside.I had become accustomed to our time alone: picnics at the Hollywood Bowl and the Greek Theatre, decadent meals at Black Market Liquor Bar and Gjelina, ocean-side walks in Santa Monica.
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Put the kids first Your new man’s kids will always come first to him, so don’t try to compete for his affection.
Even if you’re thrilled about the prospect of meeting them, be aware that you need to be the one to fit into their lives, not the other way around.
So bear in mind that your date’s ex-wife will be in the picture while you are dating him.
They may need to speak often about their children and arrangements for care.The first time I attended a school play, David’s daughter came out after the show.