Dating advice shy
If you’re inexperienced at dating then get experience.
Sign up for all the free dating sites and have someone take flattering photos. Forget about dating with the intent of starting a relationship - simply meet for coffee and talk, or go for a walk, or do something with them. With this exercise your goal isn’t romance, it’s experience.
We’re all complex sophisticated gay men, and we’re more than just one personality trait.
Identify your other qualities and bring those to the table when you’re chatting to your date.
But by making myself available and doing something where women hang out it became so easy, even for a shy guy like me, to meet women who were kind, decent, centered and calm - because of their yoga - to ask them out.
You know what the fisherman always says, “Fish where the fish are”.
Shy guys get their energy from within, which is a charming quality.
It’s great to have solitary hobbies like stamp collecting, model train sets or even wood working but you aren’t going to meet women doing that, at least not in the quantities you might like, that give you an advantage.
So take up running and sign up for every 5K you can. This is another great thing that will serve you your entire life and over time has become a haven for women who love to bike. If you REALLY want to meet women, join a kayaking club. If you do things that women like to do, then you will meet women. Bars are sex stores where people are bought and sold the way butcher shops sell meat. You have to fish where the fish are - the fish you want to catch. You have to learn self-confidence and this is something you can practice anywhere. I’m being kind and honing my self-confidence skills.
This article was co-authored by Klare Heston, LICSW.
Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker in Ohio.So just try to talk to them, get used to them, be with them. If you don’t have any, get some, and especially the ones where women hang out.