Early stages of dating a guy
You need him to text you back within a certain window of time or you will panic and think he no longer cares and he’s off with someone new.
Basically, you don’t feel OK on your own, you need him to be a certain way in order to feel good.
Only you can control your emotional reactions and the way you feel about yourself and your life. You already feel a certain way and then you look for confirmation of that in his behavior …
and then you blame him for “making” you feel insecure when really it had nothing to do with him.
The next reason a guy will pull away is that you’re doing something that’s turning him off (for more on that, read this article on the biggest things that turn men off to relationships). It is a mindset that says, “I need you to respond to me in a certain way or I won’t be OK.” For example, you “need” him to be your official boyfriend or you will be distraught and will question everything about yourself.
You need him to shower you with compliments or you will feel insecure and unworthy.
Whatever the case, there just isn’t enough chemistry and fundamental compatibility to make a relationship work. Yes, it’s incredibly painful when you feel that everything is so right and he just doesn’t agree, but the right guy for you is a guy who to be with you.
MORE: The Number One Reason Men Suddenly Lose Interest It is hard to tell someone to their face that you are no longer interested.
She has a life outside of the relationship and has many elements in her life that bring her joy.
She doesn’t only extract joy and a sense of worth from her relationship.
So he takes longer to call or text you back, he’s less engaged and interested, you’re less of a priority.
He pulls away bit by bit until it’s safe to make a totally clean break.When you are in the needy state of mind, you act in off-putting ways.